About the adult age we think and we act in accordance with what we are and in accordance with the accumulated emotional luggage throughout our existence. Some situations had marked in them of positive form and others of negative form, mainly because, to the times, the people emphasize our errors what she can induce to the esquecimento of our qualities. All we commit errors, all we have positive and negative feelings, what we have that to have conscience is that the errors are behaviors, that can be approved or be disapproved and be corrected. In if treating to children, we have that corrigiz them, but without leaving to pass the message who we disapprove the behavior, not it, we love who it, so that it does not develop rejection feeling. The acceptance on the part of the other is a necessity of any human being, therefore it is important to know to detach the qualities, to stimulate and to recognize behaviors and positive attitudes.
If not to act thus we can discourage for not being strengthening a positive behavior, what it will be able until eliminating it, therefore was not white of no demonstration of approval. To commit this imperfection is very common, generally emphasizes the negative with the applied punishment, not it dither of the positive with the respective reinforcement. The people in a general way need to be understood, to be understood, to be valued. An important attitude is to know to place itself in the place of the other to try to understand its real necessities, which its way to think, under which perspective it is facing or living deeply one determined situation. Many times we judge that somebody is missed and in the reality in we do not give account to them that the way as it feels, in accordance with its experiences is another one.
We do not have to judge, but to understand. They are small things, small attitudes that in the daily one can improve the relationships, the convivncia, becoming the environment lightest. The internal disposal to place in doubt personal positions is an attitude that demonstrates good will, conciliation desire, of agreement, to search alternatives, in contrast to positionings inflexible, that they make it difficult the communication, the brainstorming. To think that we can be wrong, already are a good start for questionings, to review position, to move. After all we are human, what it means that we erramos, but we have that to try to make right. We are not only good or only bad. We have that to look for to make always optimum, for us, the others, the society as a whole. It is not alone to be bonzinho, to make what all want, but what it needs to be fact, with honesty, clarity, dignity, ethics, with education, looking for to act in such a way in any situation, after all, we educate for the example.